I love flying. If only because it let’s me catch up on all the reading I’ve been meaning to do.
As per Amy’s “Assholes 101” post, I’ve been stuck trying to finish The No Asshole Rule: Building a Civilized Workplace and Surviving One That Isn’t by Bob Sutton.
Last time I was talking to her about it, I was a bit down on the book. I was frustrated. But I was determined to get through it. Because I had heard such good things about it. Now, I’m glad I did.
But see, here’s the thing. Here’s why I was frustrated: there are different reading styles for the book.
If you’re considering reading The No Asshole Rule (and I recommend that you do), please take one of the two following paths:
- If you have never encountered an asshole in your life and live in a Pollyanna-like existence, fueled by child-like curiosity, please start on page 1.
- If you’re like 99.9999…% of the population and have had to deal with assholes before–maybe like two minutes ago–then I would suggest you read the book Star Wars style. That is, start in the middle, at around Chapter 5. Read through to the end, find out Darth Vader does turn out to be good, and then start over at the beginning.
Trust me, you’ll be much happier. This will reduce the number of times you yell out, “I know what an asshole is! How do I deal with the assholes, you asshole?!!?” (UPDATE: And lookie here, Bob goes even further to help us answer that very question, with his “Tips for Victims of Workplace Assholes.”)
I especially suggest taking path #2 if you plan on reading the book in a public place.
The main points I remember?
- Divorce yourself from the situation or create coping mechanisms that place you in control of the situation
- Look for small wins instead of big wins
- Limit your exposure
- “A few demeaning creeps can overwhelm the warm feelings generated by hoards of civilized people.”
(As it turns out, this review falls well in line with my current diatribe on perspective and control. Who knew?)
Have you read the book? I’d love to hear your take.